{"id":13,"date":"2018-10-10T09:12:01","date_gmt":"2018-10-10T09:12:01","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/woocommerce-198657-625630.cloudwaysapps.com\/?page_id=13"},"modified":"2023-05-31T10:19:06","modified_gmt":"2023-05-31T10:19:06","slug":"case-studies","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/www.guildfordaction.org.uk\/action-for-families\/case-studies","title":{"rendered":"Personal Story"},"content":{"rendered":"<div class=\"wpb-content-wrapper\"><p>[vc_row][vc_column][vc_column_text]<\/p>\n<h3>At Guildford Action we recognise that many people have trauma and this shapes their life. Our Trauma Informed Approach and passion for nurturing, helps those who are most scared, build long lasting and trusting relationships, which we know is the best way to heal.<\/h3>\n<p>[\/vc_column_text][\/vc_column][\/vc_row][vc_row full_width=&#8221;stretch_row&#8221; el_class=&#8221;white-txt case-study&#8221; css=&#8221;.vc_custom_1539344573829{background-color: #ff6000 !important;}&#8221;][vc_column width=&#8221;2\/3&#8243;][vc_column_text]<\/p>\n<h3>A mother\u2019s story<\/h3>\n<p>I\u2019ve got a memory box, its tucked right inside my mind and is heavy to carry around. I wasn\u2019t born with this box, but because of what happened to me, because of what he did, I\u2019m now stuck with it. Its my place to lock things away. He told me to keep it a secret, not to talk about it, so what else could I do with this stuff? The problem is, the box has been opened, often prompted by a smell, and now I can\u2019t close it.<\/p>\n<p>I always felt different at school, I was quiet and I just couldn\u2019t keep up. I just didn\u2019t learn the same as the others. The teachers would write things on the board and then rub them out and move on before I had a chance to take it all in. I couldn\u2019t keep asking so everyone just thought I was lazy or stupid. I wish they knew how heavy this memory box was for a little girl.<\/p>\n<p>I was born in the south of England and have 3 siblings. My Mum struggled a bit and my older siblings went into care, I think she struggled like me but I don\u2019t know why. When I was a bit older I went to live with my grandparents, all I was told was that my Mum couldn\u2019t cope with me. All these unanswered questions take their toll.<\/p>\n<p>Today I\u2019m a Mum. A Mum who hasn\u2019t got her kids living with me. That\u2019s because I have a memory box, filled with stuff that has ruined my life. I was born a baby like everyone else. I wasn\u2019t born mentally ill, but what he did, the abuse, the robbing me of my childhood, the snatching away my innocence has meant I now have a \u2018diagnosis\u2019 of borderline personality disorder and post traumatic stress disorder. I can\u2019t be somebodies partner as it goes wrong because I can\u2019t move on from what happened. I didn\u2019t realise until I was older that what happened has affected my brain. It affected everything.<\/p>\n<p>Ive got a few friends but I find any relationships so hard, I put a wall up. I remember hiding in my flat once from a friend who had just knocked on my door. I was quiet at school and not part of the popular group.<\/p>\n<p>I don\u2019t have the memories that other people have. My first kiss should have been something that I could remember and smile about, its hard when it was with your Dad who was just \u2018preparing me for being a grown up\u2019.<\/p>\n<p>My social worker has said I need to move on and should look forward not at the past. I\u2019m not sure anyone really understands to be honest. I drink to forget, that\u2019s another diagnosis\u2026.alcoholic. That\u2019s another reason for people to punish and judge me. My message is, don\u2019t make assumptions. 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